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The Secret To Dealing With Homesickness

Whatever reason you have for deciding to leave home, you have to be strong enough to face the life ahead of you. Needless to say, life away from home is going to be different. More so when you have to be somewhere alone. If you haven’t left yet, think about it first before making that big decision. You should know that you’ll be without a doubt a candidate for this cheerless game hosted by homesickness.

Wikipedia defines the word as the distress caused by being away from home. Its cognitive hallmark is preoccupying thoughts of home and attachment objects. Sufferers typically report a combination of depressive and anxious symptoms, withdrawn behavior and difficulty focusing on topics unrelated to home.

Sounds awful, right?

If moving on to pastures new is the sole reason for your being away from home which is stereotypical among us, then you have to be tough as steel because, my friend, homesickness will knock on your door anytime it wants and what are you going to do about it? You’re alone. The people who can give the comfort that you need are miles away from you. Would you regret about working abroad? Remember that the decision was yours. Yours alone. But because you only want something better for you and your family back home, you chose to leave not knowing what it may cost you. That’s bold and you should be proud of yourself. But then again, you become vulnerable when something’s not going your way and at the same time, you miss home. It’s big of a struggle. You don’t want others to know, especially your family about it so you put up a smile on your face. This can be bad. Bottling up your emotions isn’t an option. In the end, your feelings will come flooding out and it’s going to be a disaster.

But wait, am I talking from past experience? I’d have to say not really. My reason for giving up everything back home is to be with someone I’ll spend the rest of my life with. It means being with him is my home now. I’d be a hypocrite if I say that I don’t miss my previous home and loved ones. Of course, I do but it’s different now. I have a life and home of my own now. Maybe I felt homesick in my first year here, but I was (I am and will always be) just so optimistic that I didn’t even notice it. Not to sound privileged, but my case differs from those who left to work. I may not be in the right place to talk about homesickness, but one way or another I understand when you say you miss your family. I know that feeling all too well. It’s inevitable and we have to learn how to deal with it. You have to, otherwise, you’ll lose the spark and you’ll feel like living rough in the desert. It’s important to enjoy life even if some things or days are off.

My secret is something I’ve been honing over the years. Whenever something causes you to be lonely, sad, blue, or down, just feel it. Cry if you have to. Acknowledge the truth that you are what you are feeling at the moment. Doing the opposite is going to break you in the end. It’s not worth it. It’s okay to be a mess because it’s not going to last forever. Just like a storm, no matter how huge it is, it’ll pass. Surely it will. After the storm, you’ll see the sun shining and giving you warmth. You’ll see better days, rainbows, and butterflies. You’re going home soon, just hang in there and enjoy the little things you have wherever you are. Remember that some people dream to have the kind of life that you’re living now. Embrace homesickness and let it play with you for a moment and you’ll be fine. And if you believe in God, don’t forget to pray. It absolutely works!

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16 thoughts on “The Secret To Dealing With Homesickness

          1. No, I’m not alone. I’m established where I am, with my wife and children and very satisfied with my situation. It’s the extended family and old friends that I grew up with that I miss.

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  1. I could totally relate.. My first year was so hard. I went home 3 times in a year. Called people at home during the weekends. Weekends were video called time😅
    Now I go home only during summer😋👌🏻as I feel this is my other ‘home’ here.

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      1. Did sports activities after work like swimming, squash, or simply evening walk with friends. Making connection with new people, as getting some close people helped when I could talk about any stuff. Even though it wasn’t easy to find people that I really enjoy being with.

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  2. I remember what being homesick was like anytime I traveled alone. At my age now, 45, it no longer exists. I recently went to London over the Thanksgiving holiday…alone. It was nice remembering what it was like and not experiencing it anymore.

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